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February 6, 2024

Am I Defensive Quiz

Kristie Plantinga
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February 6, 2024
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If you have strong emotional reactions and try to justify yourself when people question your actions or beliefs, you may have a tendency to be defensive.

When we're defensive, our loved ones may avoid being honest with us. This can seriously strain relationships and hinder our growth as people.

We developed this quiz to help you assess whether you have defensive tendencies. Get an answer in 90 seconds or less and finally start getting some clarity around your strong reactions with others.

How accurate is this quiz?

At Best Therapists, we believe that online mental health quizzes can be an excellent first step towards improving our mental health. Quizzes like this one can educate you and provide opportunities for self-reflection, but note that they are not a substitute for professional assessments and diagnoses.

Before you dive in, note that being defensive is not an official diagnosis according to the DSM-5 (the official diagnostic manual for mental health professionals). That being said, many therapists specialize in helping people like you with defensive behaviors.

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Frequently asked questions

What are some common signs that someone might be defensive?
  • Becoming agitated or angry easily.
  • Denying responsibility for actions or behaviors.
  • Shifting blame onto others instead of accepting it themselves.
  • Making excuses to justify actions or decisions.
  • Refusing to listen to constructive feedback or criticism.
  • Being overly sensitive to perceived slights or criticisms.
What are some reasons that someone might be defensive?

Some people may be defensive because they feel threatened or insecure about their abilities, beliefs, or actions, leading them to protect themselves by reacting defensively. Additionally, past experiences of criticism or rejection may have conditioned them to anticipate and respond defensively to perceived threats.

What are some ways defensiveness can affect your life?

Over time, being defensive can strain relationships as others may perceive the individual as closed-off or unwilling to engage in open communication, leading to isolation and loneliness. Furthermore, consistently reacting defensively can hinder personal growth and prevent individuals from learning from their mistakes or considering alternative perspectives.

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Written by
Kristie Plantinga

Kristie Plantinga is the founder of Best Therapists. Along with being on the client-side of therapy, Kristie has had the honor of working directly with therapists in her marketing agency for therapists, TherapieSEO. While working alongside therapists, she learned about the inequities in our mental health system that therapists face on a daily basis, and she wanted to do something about it. That’s why Best Therapists is a platform designed to benefit not only therapy-seekers, but therapy providers. Kristie has a Masters degree in Written Communication and a Bachelors degree in Psychology and Music.

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Katelyn McMahon
Registered Psychotherapist, VT #097.0134200

Katelyn is a therapist-turned-writer with a passion for mental health. She has a Master's degree in Social Work from the University of England and is a Registered Psychotherapist in the state of Vermont. Katelyn has professional experience in aging care, addiction treatment, integrated health care, and private practice settings. She also has lived experience being on the client side of therapy. Currently, Katelyn is a content writer who’s passionate about spreading mental health awareness and helping other therapists and therapy-seekers Do The Work.

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