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February 27, 2024

Am I Manipulative Quiz

Kristie Plantinga
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February 27, 2024
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It's not easy to take accountability for our behavior, especially if our behavior may be harmful to others.

Many of us engage in manipulative behaviors without realizing it. The impulse to control situations or influence others can take root before we even recognize what we're doing. But living more consciously and compassionately starts with self-awareness.

This quick quiz aims to help you check in with yourself and evaluate if your behavior could be considered manipulative. There is no judgment here; just a space for gentle self-reflection.

As you answer openly, remember—we are all works in progress, and I commend you for taking accountability with this first, small step.

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At Best Therapists, we believe that online mental health quizzes can be an excellent first step towards improving our mental health. Quizzes like this one can educate you and provide opportunities for self-reflection, but note that they are not a substitute for professional assessments and diagnoses.

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Frequently asked questions

What are some common signs that someone is manipulative?

According to WebMD, some signs of manipulation include:

  • Making excuses, minimizing, or rationalizing your actions
  • Lying, denying, or deceiving others
  • Using guilt, complaining, or comparing to make you others bad
  • Feigning ignorance or innocence to avoid responsibility
  • Blaming others for your problems
  • Using mind games, passive aggression, or cruel humor to hurt others
  • Knowing other people's weaknesses and exploiting them
  • Convincing others to give up something important to them
  • Gaslighting others to make them doubt their own reality
What often causes someone to be manipulative?

There are many possible causes for someone to become manipulative. Some of these depend on a person's personality, history, environment, and more. According to Very Well Mind, some common factors are:

  • A need for power and control over others and situations
  • A lack of healthy communication and emotional skills
  • A history of trauma, abuse, or neglect in childhood or adulthood
  • A personality disorder, such as borderline or narcissistic personality disorders, that affects a person's sense of self and empathy
  • A social or professional norm that encourages or rewards cunning, scheming, or exploiting others

Manipulation can be harmful to both the manipulator and the victim, as it creates distrust, resentment, and emotional distress.

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Written by
Kristie Plantinga

Kristie Plantinga is the founder of Best Therapists. Along with being on the client-side of therapy, Kristie has had the honor of working directly with therapists in her marketing agency for therapists, TherapieSEO. While working alongside therapists, she learned about the inequities in our mental health system that therapists face on a daily basis, and she wanted to do something about it. That’s why Best Therapists is a platform designed to benefit not only therapy-seekers, but therapy providers. Kristie has a Masters degree in Written Communication and a Bachelors degree in Psychology and Music.

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Katelyn McMahon
Registered Psychotherapist, VT #097.0134200

Katelyn is a therapist-turned-writer with a passion for mental health. She has a Master's degree in Social Work from the University of England and is a Registered Psychotherapist in the state of Vermont. Katelyn has professional experience in aging care, addiction treatment, integrated health care, and private practice settings. She also has lived experience being on the client side of therapy. Currently, Katelyn is a content writer who’s passionate about spreading mental health awareness and helping other therapists and therapy-seekers Do The Work.

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Show sources and research articles
  1. Kleyman, Y. (2022, January 14). 9 signs someone is manipulating you. WebMD. https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/signs-manipulation
  2. Cherry, K. (2022, August 23). What is manipulative behavior? Very Well Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-manipulative-behavior-5220502