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March 1, 2024

Am I Self Centered Quiz

Kristie Plantinga
,
MA
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March 1, 2024
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It's understandable to get caught up in your own world and needs. However, those who struggle with extreme self-centeredness often have trouble sustaining healthy relationships.

This quiz aims to help you reflect on potential self-centered habits without judgment. We’re offering this quiz from a place of gentle understanding. It's a noble to step to take a critical look at yourself and be willing to change self-centered behaviors! Increasing your self-awareness around how your actions affect others is the first brave step toward positive change. 

You deserve to have balanced, rewarding relationships and also feel that your own needs are being met. Our hope is that with compassion for yourself and others, you’ll be able to nurture more harmony between those two things.

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At Best Therapists, we believe that online mental health quizzes can be an excellent first step towards improving our mental health. Quizzes like this one can educate you and provide opportunities for self-reflection, but note that they are not a substitute for professional assessments and diagnoses.

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What are common signs that someone is self-centered?

According to Very Well Mind (1), some common signs that someone is too self-centered are:

  • They dominate conversations and don’t really listen to others.
  • They lack empathy and may not be able to see things from another person’s perspective.
  • They take more than they give and make the relationship feel one-sided.
  • They want things done their way and have a hard time compromising and doing things someone else’s way.
  • They’re quick to blame others and avoid responsibility for their own mistakes.
  • They always want to be the center of attention and may try to bring the focus back to themselves if it shifts to something or someone else.
What can cause someone to be self-centered?

According to Very Well Health (2)and Berkeley Wellbeing (3), there are various factors that can cause someone to be self-centered, such as:

  • Upbringing: The person might have been raised in a way that taught them they didn’t have to consider or include others, or that valued materialism and status over empathy and compassion.
  • Rejection: Self-centeredness can also come from early feelings of rejection, says Dr. Aimee Daramus, a licensed clinical psychologist.
  • Mental health conditions: Some mental health conditions, such as narcissistic personality disorder, histrionic personality disorder, or antisocial personality disorder, can cause a person to behave self-centeredly without necessarily realizing it.
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Written by
Kristie Plantinga
,
MA

Kristie Plantinga is the founder of Best Therapists. Along with being on the client-side of therapy, Kristie has had the honor of working directly with therapists in her marketing agency for therapists, TherapieSEO. While working alongside therapists, she learned about the inequities in our mental health system that therapists face on a daily basis, and she wanted to do something about it. That’s why Best Therapists is a platform designed to benefit not only therapy-seekers, but therapy providers. Kristie has a Masters degree in Written Communication and a Bachelors degree in Psychology and Music.

Reviewed by
Katelyn McMahon
,
Registered Psychotherapist, VT #097.0134200

Katelyn is a therapist-turned-writer with a passion for mental health. She has a Master's degree in Social Work from the University of England and is a Registered Psychotherapist in the state of Vermont. Katelyn has professional experience in aging care, addiction treatment, integrated health care, and private practice settings. She also has lived experience being on the client side of therapy. Currently, Katelyn is a content writer who’s passionate about spreading mental health awareness and helping other therapists and therapy-seekers Do The Work.

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Show sources and research articles
  1. Cherry, K. (2022, November 15). Signs Someone Is Too Self-Centered. VeryWell Mind. https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-someone-is-too-self-centered-7484081
  2. Wanjek, J. (2022, September 14). Signs of Self-Centeredness in Adults. Verywell Health. https://www.verywellhealth.com/self-centered-7570372
  3. Jacobs, J. (2022, September 26). When You're Too Self-Centered. Berkeley Well Being. https://www.berkeleywellbeing.com/self-centeredness.html