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April 2, 2024

Is My Mom Jealous of Me Quiz

Kristie Plantinga
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April 2, 2024
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Dealing with a mother's jealousy and resentment towards you can be an incredibly hurtful experience. 

As her child, you deserved to be supported, encouraged, and loved unconditionally. Instead, you may feel constantly criticized, sabotaged, or put down, as if your mom is threatened by your successes, relationships, or qualities. 

This toxic dynamic likely chips away at your self-esteem and causes immense emotional turmoil. You may love your mother deeply, yet also recognize that her behavior is unacceptable and damaging to your mental health. 

Please know that you are not alone and that no one is responsible for dealing with their parent’s emotions. This short quiz can help provide some clarity around whether your mother's behaviors constitute an unhealthy level of jealousy towards you. 

Regardless of the results, resources are provided to help you process this pain and start re-building the self-confidence and peace of mind you deserve.

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Scenarios of mom's jealousy towards her grown child

Here are some examples to consider if you suspect your mom might be exhibiting jealous behavior toward you as an adult.

Scenario 1 → The competitive downplayer

  • The situation: You land a new job or achieve a personal milestone. You excitedly share the news with your mom.
  • The jealous twist: Instead of celebrating your success, your mom subtly compares your accomplishment to someone else's, downplays the significance, or focuses on potential negatives.

Scenario 2 → The gatekeeper of independence

  • The situation: You're planning a trip with friends or a romantic getaway with your partner.
  • The jealous twist: Your mom expresses excessive worry, guilt-trips you about leaving her alone, or tries to manipulate the situation to be included, blurring boundaries and hindering your independence.

Scenario 3 → The partner disapprover

  • The situation: You introduce your mom to your new partner. You're hoping for her approval.
  • The jealous twist: Your mom nitpicks your partner's personality, appearance, or background. She might make passive-aggressive comments or subtly try to undermine the relationship, fearing you'll spend less time with her.

Scenario 4 → The "my baby" syndrome

  • The situation: You're making decisions about your own life, like choosing a career path or moving to a new city.
  • The jealous ywist: Your mom infantilizes you, treating you like a child incapable of making your own choices. She might express disapproval or guilt-trip you to stay close, clinging to the past dynamic and resisting your growth.

Scenario 5 → The social media saboteur

  • The situation: You post a happy picture with friends or a significant other on social media.
  • The jealous twist: Your mom makes negative comments disguised as "helpful advice" about your appearance or the activity. She might try to control your online image or subtly compete for attention through her own social media posts.

Remember: These are just a few scenarios, and the severity can vary. If your mom consistently exhibits jealous behavior that undermines your confidence, independence, or relationships, it might be helpful to set boundaries or seek professional guidance to navigate a healthier dynamic.

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Kristie Plantinga

Kristie Plantinga is the founder of Best Therapists. Along with being on the client-side of therapy, Kristie has had the honor of working directly with therapists in her marketing agency for therapists, TherapieSEO. While working alongside therapists, she learned about the inequities in our mental health system that therapists face on a daily basis, and she wanted to do something about it. That’s why Best Therapists is a platform designed to benefit not only therapy-seekers, but therapy providers. Kristie has a Masters degree in Written Communication and a Bachelors degree in Psychology and Music.

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Katelyn McMahon
Registered Psychotherapist, VT #097.0134200

Katelyn is a therapist-turned-writer with a passion for mental health. She has a Master's degree in Social Work from the University of England and is a Registered Psychotherapist in the state of Vermont. Katelyn has professional experience in aging care, addiction treatment, integrated health care, and private practice settings. She also has lived experience being on the client side of therapy. Currently, Katelyn is a content writer who’s passionate about spreading mental health awareness and helping other therapists and therapy-seekers Do The Work.

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