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April 1, 2024

Is My Mother a Narcissist Quiz

Kristie Plantinga
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April 1, 2024
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Does your relationship with your mom leave you upset, confused, and curious if narcissism may play a role?

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) can significantly impact family dynamics. People with NPD often have an inflated sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for others, and a deep need for admiration. 

These traits can create challenges and complexities in parent-child bonds. This quiz does not provide a diagnosis, but it can be a helpful tool for self-reflection.

By exploring your mom's behaviors, you can gain some insight into whether certain narcissistic tendencies might be impacting your relationship and causing you harm.

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Example narcissistic scenarios

Here are some additional examples of how a parent with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) might behave, showcasing the manipulative and confusing nature of their actions:

Scenario 1 → Triangulation and divide-and-conquer

  • The Situation: Your parents are constantly arguing, and your mom uses you as a confidante, bad-mouthing your other parent. They might try to pit you against your other parent, seeking your loyalty and validation.
  • The narcissistic twist: This creates a sense of division and emotional manipulation within the family. You feel caught in the middle, unable to express support for either parent without risking further conflict.

Scenario 2 → Taking credit for your achievements

  • The situation: You win a prestigious scholarship or achieve a personal goal you've been working hard for.
  • The narcissistic twist: Your mom downplays your accomplishment or takes credit for your success, mentioning all the "support" they provided. This robs you of a sense of accomplishment and makes you feel like your achievements belong to them.

Scenario 3 → The master of gaslighting

  • The situation: You have a clear memory of an event where your mom said or did something hurtful. When you bring it up, they deny it ever happening, making you question your own memory and perception of reality.
  • The narcissistic twist: This gaslighting tactic is a form of emotional manipulation that erodes your self-trust and makes you doubt your own experiences.

Scenario 4 → Envy masquerading as support

  • The situation: You share your dreams and ambitions with your mom, hoping for his encouragement.
  • The narcissistic twist: They might express doubt or negativity towards your goals, subtly comparing them to their own unfulfilled dreams. This can leave you feeling discouraged and unsure of pursuing your aspirations.

Scenario 5 → The public persona vs. private reality

  • The situation: Your mom projects a charming and successful image to the outside world.
  • The narcissistic twist: At home, she might be critical, dismissive, or even abusive. This creates a confusing and isolating experience, leaving you unsure of who your mom truly is.

Remember, these are just a few examples, and narcissistic behavior can manifest in various ways. It's important to consider the frequency and intensity of these behaviors to get a clearer picture of your relationship with your mom.

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Written by
Kristie Plantinga

Kristie Plantinga is the founder of Best Therapists. Along with being on the client-side of therapy, Kristie has had the honor of working directly with therapists in her marketing agency for therapists, TherapieSEO. While working alongside therapists, she learned about the inequities in our mental health system that therapists face on a daily basis, and she wanted to do something about it. That’s why Best Therapists is a platform designed to benefit not only therapy-seekers, but therapy providers. Kristie has a Masters degree in Written Communication and a Bachelors degree in Psychology and Music.

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Katelyn McMahon
Registered Psychotherapist, VT #097.0134200

Katelyn is a therapist-turned-writer with a passion for mental health. She has a Master's degree in Social Work from the University of England and is a Registered Psychotherapist in the state of Vermont. Katelyn has professional experience in aging care, addiction treatment, integrated health care, and private practice settings. She also has lived experience being on the client side of therapy. Currently, Katelyn is a content writer who’s passionate about spreading mental health awareness and helping other therapists and therapy-seekers Do The Work.

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