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September 12, 2023

People Pleaser Quiz

Kristie Plantinga
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September 12, 2023
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Do you often find yourself saying "yes" when you really want to say "no"? Are you constantly prioritizing others people's needs, desires, and opinions over your own?

If so, welcome to our "People Pleaser Quiz," a tool we designed to help shed light on a common behavior pattern that many of us struggle with.

In this article, we invite you to reflect on your relationships by taking our quiz that assesses your people pleasing tendencies.

Friendly reminder: this quiz isn’t intended to make assumptions or judgments about another person’s background, personality, or mental health. In other words, we can’t armchair diagnose you, your friends, or your family with anything. Our goal for this tool is help you better understand your relationships and yourself while validating your experience.

Who is this quiz for?

This quiz is designed for adults who are assessing their social interactions in order to check for signs of people pleasing.

How accurate is this quiz?

At Best Therapists, we believe that online mental health quizzes can be an excellent first step towards improving our mental health. Quizzes like this one can educate you and provide opportunities for self-reflection, but note that they are not a substitute for professional assessments and diagnoses. Additionally, note that "people pleaser" isn't an official mental health diagnosis—it's an unofficial term used to describe people who exhibit people pleasing behavior.

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Your privacy is important to us, so all results are completely anonymous.

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Frequently asked questions

What is people pleasing?

People pleasing is a collection of behaviors characterized by a person consistently prioritizing the needs, wants, and opinions of others over one's own, often at the expense of personal boundaries and well-being. People pleasers tend to seek approval and validation from others and may have difficulty asserting their own desires or saying "no" to requests or demands.

What is the root cause of people pleasing?

The root cause of people-pleasing varies from person-to-person. In many cases, the tendency to people please stems from a deep-seated fear of rejection or criticism, leading individuals to believe that meeting others' expectations is essential for maintaining relationships and gaining acceptance. This behavior is often rooted in childhood experiences, such as a need for parental approval, which can carry into adulthood as a pattern of seeking external validation to feel valued and secure.

What is the difference between a "nice" person and a people pleaser?

The key difference between a "nice" person and a people pleaser lies in their motivations and boundaries. A nice person genuinely cares about others' feelings and well-being, and they perform acts of kindness from a place of empathy and goodwill. However, a "nice" person maintains healthy boundaries, which means they can say "no" when necessary without feeling guilty. On the other hand, a people pleaser is often motivated by a fear of disapproval or conflict, which leads them to going to great lengths to please or placate others, even at their own expense. They tend to prioritize others' needs over their own to gain approval or avoid rejection, which often leads to a lack of assertiveness and potential burnout.

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Written by
Kristie Plantinga

Kristie Plantinga is the founder of Best Therapists. Along with being on the client-side of therapy, Kristie has had the honor of working directly with therapists in her marketing agency for therapists, TherapieSEO. While working alongside therapists, she learned about the inequities in our mental health system that therapists face on a daily basis, and she wanted to do something about it. That’s why Best Therapists is a platform designed to benefit not only therapy-seekers, but therapy providers. Kristie has a Masters degree in Written Communication and a Bachelors degree in Psychology and Music.

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Katelyn McMahon
Registered Psychotherapist, VT #097.0134200

Katelyn is a therapist-turned-writer with a passion for mental health. She has a Master's degree in Social Work from the University of England and is a Registered Psychotherapist in the state of Vermont. Katelyn has professional experience in aging care, addiction treatment, integrated health care, and private practice settings. She also has lived experience being on the client side of therapy. Currently, Katelyn is a content writer who’s passionate about spreading mental health awareness and helping other therapists and therapy-seekers Do The Work.

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