Erika Kao is a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in working with couples, particularly those navigating the complexities of addiction or ADHD. She is licensed to practice in New Jersey, New York, Connecticut, and Pennsylvania. Erika holds a Master’s degree from Columbia University School of Social Work, where she developed a strong foundation in evidence-based therapeutic approaches and relational dynamics. Erika takes a compassionate and collaborative approach to therapy. She integrates elements of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT), and psychodynamic theory to help couples deepen emotional connection, improve communication, and heal relational wounds. Her hybrid method allows for a personalized and flexible experience, attuned to each couple’s unique needs and challenges. Whether working with long-term partners or couples in the early stages of their relationship, Erika creates a supportive environment where both individuals feel heard and understood. Her clinical focus on the intersection of neurodiversity, substance use, and intimacy makes her particularly skilled in helping couples build resilience and navigate change together. Erika is committed to fostering meaningful, lasting change in the lives of those she works with.

If you’re feeling stuck in patterns that leave you and your partner disconnected, overwhelmed, or misunderstood—you're not alone. Relationships can be incredibly fulfilling, but when challenges like addiction, ADHD, or communication breakdowns enter the picture, even the strongest partnerships can struggle. I specialize in working with couples navigating exactly these kinds of complexities. My approach is compassionate, non-judgmental, and collaborative. I integrate Emotionally Focused Therapy, mindfulness-based cognitive techniques, and psychodynamic insight to help you and your partner better understand yourselves and each other. Together, we’ll work to rebuild emotional safety, strengthen your connection, and create lasting change. I know how hard it can be to reach out for help—especially when you're already feeling worn down. But therapy doesn’t have to be about fixing what's “broken.” It can be about creating space for both of you to feel truly seen, heard, and supported. If you're ready to do the work—whether you're feeling on the verge of breaking apart or simply want to grow stronger together—I'd be honored to walk alongside you. Let’s find a new way forward, together.