Dr. Ruby Rhoden is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in New York State, and the founder of Lavender Therapy. As a therapist, she brings her authentic self through humor, energy, and creativity (including music, art, and occasional reality TV references) to provide balance, communicate hopefulness, and identify what brings you pleasure and joy. At its core, she believes in therapy that is collaborative and transparent to provide you with the tools and support needed to navigate life's challenges and create sustainable change. As an integrative therapist, Dr. Ruby uses a collection of different proven approaches to unearth questions that have left you feeling stuck or unhappy while teaching you coping skills to become your favorite version of you. These approaches include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy - Skills (DBT), and psychodynamic psychotherapy She enjoys holding space for women who feel lost or not like themselves due to painful reproductive experiences or caring for others so much that they forget how to care for themselves. This includes individual psychotherapy for women struggling with infertility pregnancy/postpartum concerns, pregnancy loss, birth trauma, parenthood, life transitions, burnout, depression, anxiety, and trauma. Dr. Ruby graduated from Cornell University with a Bachelor of Arts (B.A.) degree in Psychology. She earned my Doctor of Psychology (Psy.D

I know you didn’t get the “happily ever after” you were promised. Whether you are a new parent, the “therapist” in your family, struggling with depression and anxiety, or dread turning into your parents, life didn’t go as promised and it is far from what you planned. My clients struggled. Despite being intelligent and successful women, they consistently showed up for others but had trouble understanding and prioritizing their needs; they didn’t know how to ask for help and ultimately felt overwhelmed or burnt out. They couldn’t be present or enjoy the moment and were constantly worrying and overthinking. They were disconnected from most people in their lives. They struggled in silence because they were usually the one “with their shit together” and were desperately looking for relief. Before they came to see me, my clients wondered if therapy was right for them or if they truly needed it because they were used to figuring things out on their own. They worried that opening up a new person would be impossible because they are typically weary of new people. And they were pretty certain that a therapist would dismiss their feelings or urge them to look into medication. They were the leaders and caretakers in their communities who were suffering in silence. Like my clients, you deserve a soft place to land to be seen and heard without feeling ashamed or guilty. Re-discovering your favorite version of you is not out of your reach. I can help.